The Breathing Space after Marriage

Should there be counseling classes for Indian Mother and father in law?

Arranged and Love Marriages in India are going through a huge transformation. Extravaganza marriages, extended hours of rituals, unforgettable family affairs create memorable events for the newlywed couple. After all, the fancy and fun filled memories lie the real experience of a couple in groom’s house. The bride usually feels happy, spooky and apprehending to talk much with family relatives.

The role of mother and father in law is very important during the initial days of the marriage. A heartwarming conversation can make or break the new relationship. Parents should be ready to accept and realize the changes coming to their ways.  Parents should make a loving effort to welcome the new bride.

Small things bring a bigger change

 All parents who want good of their son should show some empathy towards the bride.  Parents could ask simple questions like if she is feeling ok at their home or if she had breakfast or lunch at the proper time, helping her in wearing a saree. These small things could be a beginning step for a healthy bonding and would make her feel comfortable. Many plan their honeymoon package because at home they can’t find privacy and a personal space for each other.  

Mentoring Required

We are moving toward a society where families prefer a working lady as a good match for their son. A working lady represents somebody who is self-reliant, independent and has a certain lifestyle. Parents should undergo a thought process change where they shouldn’t be forcing any ideas rather be ready to share thoughts with the couple and come to a conclusion.

Rethinking your thoughts

It’s important to understand that newly wed couples are staying together for the first time. So it’s essential for a newlywed couple to mutually understand each other for a better future. Parents could take a step back and should avoid interfering much in their life. Any small misunderstanding should not be a point of discussion with relatives or other siblings.

Who should be mentoring?

Generally, Parents share their thoughts to their elder and younger children. Sisters and brothers of a married man are the best person for counseling the parents. Siblings can play a major role in modifying the thoughts of parents. Try to show a change in attitude and ready to accept bride as their own family members. Someday groom’s own sister and brother will get marry so it’s important to be sincere and trustworthy. This will set an amazing example of relationship to follow.

Paint each moment of life as sea waves. Someday there will be high tides, just acknowledge the bad days. Enjoy the family gets together. Instead of gossiping, stay calm and patient. Be ready to accept whatever comes on the way. Everything is so beautiful when you stop looking at flaws.